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Excerpts
From Chapter One
In The Beginning
The early stages of grief have no parallel. Numbness, pain, and disbelief come in recurring waves, making it difficult to cope with the loss and to begin rebuilding our lives. The insight needed to begin the rebuilding process is determined by how we handle our emotions, the kind of support we receive, and our willingness to go on as a changed person.
A WILLINGNESS TO MOVE FORWARD
I remember thinking, after my husband died, that the person I was had disappeared. Everything about my life changed in some way because my loved one was no longer there. Even the simplest things, such as making coffee in the morning or picking up a few groceries now must be done by me or someone else in the household. The void that is left is profound.
From Chapter Two
Services
Public acknowledgment of a death is both personal and social. Those whose lives crossed paths with the deceased, from family members to mere acquaintances, mourn the end of a life. It is a respectful way of letting go and saying goodbye to someone whose presence mattered.
A funeral director serves many functions. This person coordinates services with you and can conduct the service. He or she discusses all aspects of your immediate responsibilities for the deceased, advises and/or handles the need for a casket, flowers, public notice (obituary), cremation, burial, and graveside ceremony. Often, the funeral director will also give advice on financial concerns. Ask questions when they come to mind.
From Chapter Three
Finances
It seems unfair that people who are coping with loss should also have to think about money, but they do. Responsibilities present themselves quickly. Problems must be addressed, decisions made, and matters handled and resolved. This section is all about handling paperwork and personal financial resources. It is very detailed for good reason: The responsibilities can be enormous and intimidating. Come back to this section as needed when financial questions arise.
From Chapter Seven
Moving Forward
The task of moving forward in life is a struggle because it takes energy, desire, and letting go. The suggestions that follow will help organize your thoughts and offer ideas for managing the pain of loss while you gradually step into a new life.
Grief groups now abound, where once they were few and far between. The one I joined was held at the mortuary and was informal, with leaders who had experienced grief much as we had. We met once a week, and the format was simple. A few leaders took turns meeting with the group and asked each of us to share how our week had gone. After everyone said a few lines, there was time for elaboration on any subject anyone wanted to discuss. Sometimes we cried; sometimes we laughed. We shared common problems, feelings, and situations unique to each of us. |
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